Road to recovery
For the past decade, too much has happened and I was lost.
I lost myself when I hardened my heart. I lost myself when I could not focus nor reflect and did not allow myself to mature for personal betterment. I am not proud of situations where I could have reacted / handled differently. I was afraid of situations I could not control. And when I did not have the courage to face up to what was happening, I used anger to cover up how I really felt. That was how lost I was. I never really opened my heart to anyone else, despite knowing how much I felt deep down.
When a business unit breaks apart, as working professionals, we zoom in and analyse what has gone wrong. It is akin to the black box of an airline which has crashed. Look past the debris, look past the destruction and emotional trauma, and take stock of what had deviated in processes, conduct appropriate risk assessments and put in place plans to protect the business unit so that the past will not reoccur. Everyone makes mistakes in this lifetime, I've come to realise, it's what you take out of it that matters. Who's to say that making mistakes is unforgivable. God gave his disciples a second chance, and the prodigal son too. We all have to move past controlling people and things we do not understand. Conducting an assessment - what, why, how, when, who.
What -
1) The environment. It was too challenging an environment set to create distance and was prone to way too many external factors. Distance breeds neglect, distance breeds resentment, distance breeds temptation. Without a difficult environment, sustainance is already a challenge in itself, why make it even more challenging?
2) The mindset. What makes a unit? What is the definition of a unit? Is there even one? Of course, life is what truly what you make of it. A glass of water can always be half-empty or half-full. But fundamentally speaking, a unit denotes a team. When there is a team, there is support. When there is support, there is clarity. When there is clarity, one is able to develop maturity. When you develop maturity, nothing very much can shake you if you keep in focus. No temptation, no resentment, just focus and understanding. And a constant reminder for endurance, as well as alignment of mindsets to stay in focus.
3) Understanding. Conditioning of the human mind is an interesting subject matter. Generally guilty of taking and not giving, a lack of appreciation for the little things in life, and being obstinately in denial, even in the face of advice and love. I would without doubt raise my hand to being guilty of all three. All-assuming thinking I knew best, when I didn't. When I'm wrong, I have to say I'm wrong. Acceptance is the first step. There is nothing threatening about giving before taking (or even not taking at all), nothing worrisome about opening up to being an open book, nothing wrong with forgiving all the hurt in the last decade so that a better brick road can be built. Using anger to cover up was pure cowardice. And destructive like a horrible tornado that wipes out long histories of towns and breaks lives.
Why -
This is the journey of life. Hence the saying that life is full of trials and tribulations, the good and the bad, the sweet and the sour. A decade of pain would only translate to a better decade ahead, only if one can take life's lessons in stride. What doesn't kill you will only make you stronger and strengthen your faith. For e.g. look at Deutsche Bank's September 11 recovery, all the emotional trauma and destruction, and what did all the employees take out of it? Firstly, build a stronger bridge to recovery, they reflected on the gaps, put together a better contingency plan and the disaster that happened only served to bring everyone closer on a global level. Better late than never.
How -
1) Perserverence is key; endurance promotes flawless execution, and helps flawed execution reach the deliverable goals.
2) Action plan. A task list helps keeps things in check. A scheduled action plan helps keeps work-life balance, and eliminates confusion.
Change like life is what you make of it.
When -
Every second delayed is time wasted towards reaching a decided goal. Look forward to the light at the end of the tunnel.
Who -
Change comes solely from within. Only if one subscribes to the belief and is personally convinced, then only will embarking on a life-changing stance prove fulfilling and successful.
Last but not least, crisis management.
Review, evaluate, implement and always keep in check.
Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you're gona get. Will a chocolate truffle make your day, or will a vanilla caramel bring a smile to your face, or will even a switch from truffle to caramel result in greater joy, no one really knows isn't it?
From the bottom of my heart, I thank you for showing me love, and finally I can say this to only one person in my life, thank you for bringing realisation to my life with regards to personal betterment. Likewise, you make me want to be a better person. The greatest joy in life for me, to love and being loved in return.
I lost myself when I hardened my heart. I lost myself when I could not focus nor reflect and did not allow myself to mature for personal betterment. I am not proud of situations where I could have reacted / handled differently. I was afraid of situations I could not control. And when I did not have the courage to face up to what was happening, I used anger to cover up how I really felt. That was how lost I was. I never really opened my heart to anyone else, despite knowing how much I felt deep down.
When a business unit breaks apart, as working professionals, we zoom in and analyse what has gone wrong. It is akin to the black box of an airline which has crashed. Look past the debris, look past the destruction and emotional trauma, and take stock of what had deviated in processes, conduct appropriate risk assessments and put in place plans to protect the business unit so that the past will not reoccur. Everyone makes mistakes in this lifetime, I've come to realise, it's what you take out of it that matters. Who's to say that making mistakes is unforgivable. God gave his disciples a second chance, and the prodigal son too. We all have to move past controlling people and things we do not understand. Conducting an assessment - what, why, how, when, who.
What -
1) The environment. It was too challenging an environment set to create distance and was prone to way too many external factors. Distance breeds neglect, distance breeds resentment, distance breeds temptation. Without a difficult environment, sustainance is already a challenge in itself, why make it even more challenging?
2) The mindset. What makes a unit? What is the definition of a unit? Is there even one? Of course, life is what truly what you make of it. A glass of water can always be half-empty or half-full. But fundamentally speaking, a unit denotes a team. When there is a team, there is support. When there is support, there is clarity. When there is clarity, one is able to develop maturity. When you develop maturity, nothing very much can shake you if you keep in focus. No temptation, no resentment, just focus and understanding. And a constant reminder for endurance, as well as alignment of mindsets to stay in focus.
3) Understanding. Conditioning of the human mind is an interesting subject matter. Generally guilty of taking and not giving, a lack of appreciation for the little things in life, and being obstinately in denial, even in the face of advice and love. I would without doubt raise my hand to being guilty of all three. All-assuming thinking I knew best, when I didn't. When I'm wrong, I have to say I'm wrong. Acceptance is the first step. There is nothing threatening about giving before taking (or even not taking at all), nothing worrisome about opening up to being an open book, nothing wrong with forgiving all the hurt in the last decade so that a better brick road can be built. Using anger to cover up was pure cowardice. And destructive like a horrible tornado that wipes out long histories of towns and breaks lives.
Why -
This is the journey of life. Hence the saying that life is full of trials and tribulations, the good and the bad, the sweet and the sour. A decade of pain would only translate to a better decade ahead, only if one can take life's lessons in stride. What doesn't kill you will only make you stronger and strengthen your faith. For e.g. look at Deutsche Bank's September 11 recovery, all the emotional trauma and destruction, and what did all the employees take out of it? Firstly, build a stronger bridge to recovery, they reflected on the gaps, put together a better contingency plan and the disaster that happened only served to bring everyone closer on a global level. Better late than never.
How -
1) Perserverence is key; endurance promotes flawless execution, and helps flawed execution reach the deliverable goals.
2) Action plan. A task list helps keeps things in check. A scheduled action plan helps keeps work-life balance, and eliminates confusion.
Change like life is what you make of it.
When -
Every second delayed is time wasted towards reaching a decided goal. Look forward to the light at the end of the tunnel.
Who -
Change comes solely from within. Only if one subscribes to the belief and is personally convinced, then only will embarking on a life-changing stance prove fulfilling and successful.
Last but not least, crisis management.
Review, evaluate, implement and always keep in check.
Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you're gona get. Will a chocolate truffle make your day, or will a vanilla caramel bring a smile to your face, or will even a switch from truffle to caramel result in greater joy, no one really knows isn't it?
From the bottom of my heart, I thank you for showing me love, and finally I can say this to only one person in my life, thank you for bringing realisation to my life with regards to personal betterment. Likewise, you make me want to be a better person. The greatest joy in life for me, to love and being loved in return.
Libellés : Reflections
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